In order to make a difference in the lives of children with challenging behaviors we must first build relationship and foster their social emotional needs. The presentation will center around the mantra, "Connection brings willingness" and provide detailed accounts of how this mantra has been brought to life within early childhood classrooms and in general education classrooms across the district. This presentation will reference use a variety of methods and philosophies including, "Conscious Discipline", Trauma Informed Care, Circle Practices, and The ACES study. The format will include anecdotal accounts, current research on the topic, and practical application of skills within the general education setting.